Am I The Only Holdout on Marriage Proposals?

Several of my friends have, over the months this came out, held this up as a cool marriage proposal.

I have to admit, I think it’s creepy.

Why?

Because, in my book, any marriage proposal designed to “sell” the woman into the thing, especially one that leverages a celebrity (e.g., Patrick Stewart) or family (as in the earlier proposal) is not a proposal between peers. It is potential husband + club + possibility of public shaming, especially given the prevalence of these things on YouTube.

Now, true, it’s always possible that the couple arranged the whole thing to make it look like a surprise. If so, go them.

It’s also true that Rick proposed to me in front of others on a mailing list, but it probably wasn’t generally known that Rick asked me if that would be okay first.

Originally published at deirdre.net. You can comment here or there.

Call #3, I'm Filing a Report

...and putting a trap on my phone line for the third time in my life.

I've been out 23 years.

I was stalked by this cult in 1995. Many others were, too. Long after that page was put up, I discovered that Scientology had sent around PIs and goons to harass all my known friends at their homes.

Fortunately, dear ones, they don't have the manpower they used to.